There are only a few people in scripture who see God face-to-face. Scripture says that Adam and Eve hear God walking around in the garden while they are hiding, but they don’t see God’s face. Many prophets hear God speaking to them and serve as the mouthpieces for God, but they don’t see God face-to-face. Someone who does, though, is the prophet Moses. In Exodus 33, we read that “The Lord used to speak to Moses face to face, as one speaks to a friend.” I love that. “As one speaks to a friend.” Moses--who stuttered when he spoke, who murdered a man and then fled the scene in shame, who had an inferiority complex when it came to leading his people.
Then we have Hagar. Remember her? She was an enslaved woman, given to Abraham by his wife Sarah to bear a child (No one asked Hagar if she wanted to do that). A woman without any social capital or agency. A woman on the run after Sarah treats her harshly and she flees into the wilderness. At the height of her brokenness, God reveals God’s face to her. By the way, she is the ONLY woman in the Bible who sees God face to face. She speaks to God, gives God her own name for Him (El Roi, God who sees), and says “Have I really seen God and remained alive after seeing him?” Yes you have, Hagar.
And finally, Jacob. Oh, Jacob. A lot of times when I open the Bible and read about the people God equips for God’s mission, I’m like “Him? Her?” and this week was one of those weeks where I thought “Him?”
But like Season 2 of a show where they give you the recap of the last season for a few minutes before the new episode starts, let me take you back to the beginning with Jacob. Jacob is a twin, the son of Rebekah and Isaac. Even before he enters the world, we learn that he is wrestling his twin, Esau, in the womb. In fact, his name means “to supplant,” “to take the place of, “to take by the heel.” Jacob comes out fighting, competing, and hoping to surpass the strength, favor, merits of his twin. Esau is a hairy guy who is a skilled hunter and a man of the field. Think Golden boy. Think man’s man. Jacob is “smooth-skinned,” a quiet man living in tents. Think, withdrawn, introverted child, jealous of the attention his twin gets. Esau is a daddy’s boy. Jacob is a mama’s boy.
And not to skip over five chapters but like a movie montage, I just want to take you through the highlights of his life so that you get a sense for his humanity, this supplanter. First, Rebekah makes him trick his dad by dressing up as his brother. Jacob lies to him and makes his dad give him a blessing instead of his twin. Then he must flee because he lied to Issac, and Esau wants to kill him. Then, he falls in love with a woman but her dad makes him work for it; seven years of patience, before he can be with Rachel. He even gets the talk from Laban which made me laugh because that’s still going on today. “If you ill-treat my daughters,” Laban says, “or if you take wives in addition to my daughters…remember that God is a witness between you and me.” Then Laban, Jacob’s father-in-law lies to him about that and we’re not gonna get into the Leah/Rachel thing but find me after the service and we can chat. Then Jacob lies to Laban so that he can return home with his family. Then he tries to bribe his twin with presents so that Esau doesn’t kill him. I think y’all get the picture. We’ve got a man who has grabbed life by the heels alright and done whatever he has needed to do out of desperation or deception to supplant.
And it’s so human. Sibling rivalry. Check. Lies to his parents. Check. Runs away from home because it’s too stressful. Check. Falls in love. Check. Has a complicated relationship with his in-laws. Check. Suffers, deceives, is deceived. Check.
Are you tired? I am, and we haven’t even wrestled with God yet.
So here Jacob is. He’s on his way home to face Esau. He has been travelling and hears that Esau is coming to meet him with 400 men. He’s afraid and distressed. He sends his flocks and herds and camels ahead, sends his companies of men ahead, and finally sends his family ahead, crossing the ford with them before returning alone.
It’s time to wrestle. He takes off the armor, drops his weapons, gets everyone out of the stadium and steps into the ring alone.
Alone, you know? Like when you wake up in the middle of the night with racing thoughts or the pain of grief or the sting of loneliness, the weariness of anxiety or grief or loneliness on you. Even if you’re sleeping next to a loved one or in a home with your family…alone; that’s how you feel. Alone, wondering how you got so estranged from the sibling, wondering how to make your Dad love you as much as your mom does. Alone…and wrestling.
And in this case, while we aren’t sure who exactly Jacob wrestles with, I’d like to believe that he wrestles with God. He wrestles all night. Even when he is struck on the hip and it goes out of joint, he holds on. Maybe he grabs this angel, God, by the heel. “Let me go!” the angel says. “Nope, not until you bless me,” Jacob responds.
Who knows what blessing Jacob thinks he’s gonna get, but I guarantee it wasn’t the one he got. Sometimes we pray for one blessing and get another. We think something will be good for us and God says no no, I’m going a different route.
Up to this point in this story, Corinne Carvalho writes, Jacob has never been depicted as a strong man. That is Esau’s role. But Jacob survives out of pure stubbornness to give in. In doing so, in fighting through that sleepless night, by not letting go, his story goes from wrestling alone to persevering with many. He starts as Jacob and his new name becomes the name of our ancestors: Israel.
Because church, this is really a story about Israel and God. Jacob’s new name is “he who has striven with God and prevails,” or “God perseveres.” Israel: a people who refuse to let go of God. That is our history. Not a people who supplant, a people with a NEW name. The name doesn’t mean morally perfect and the name doesn’t mean immune to suffering and the name doesn’t mean leaving the fight unscathed; the name connotes struggle, wrestle, walking away wounded, but walking away nonetheless.
As Beth Tanner writes, “We survive by nothing more elegant than not giving up.” We get through the days after a sudden death or a hard divorce or a failed test at school simply by getting up and getting dressed. Sometimes that’s all we can do. Every loss, every divorce, every cancer diagnosis, every death of someone we love leaves its mark. Or maybe, a limp. And sometimes all we can do is hang on because we are not a people of passive faith but a people willing to wrestle with and challenge God head-on, who stay in the ring and fight.
We get in the ring with God and hang on, even when we are tired, or in pain, or have doubts. We fight for a relationship with God. We confront God. We challenge God. Moses did that. Hagar did that. Jacob did that and I wonder if that’s why God chose to reveal God’s face to them. Because they were willing and free to be angry with God and they told God they didn’t understand how the world worked and they stayed and they fought.
I’m trying, and maybe you are too, to fight. With my questions and doubts and my pain and I’m trying to refuse to let go until I get that blessing; a blessing that also comes with a wound. If you live long enough, you know that wound. That wound is part of the Christian life. There was a man who carried a cross—he knew about that wound. Jesus showed us that--he showed us that he was far from perfect…fully human and fully divine. Jacob shows us that, too. He was far from perfect but he was faithful.
In this text, he’s not a role model for moral perfection, he’s just someone who wrestled through the night and didn’t surrender. Those people are called anti-heroes. And aren’t those the most interesting heroes anyway? The anti-heroes? Severus Snape. The Grinch. Sherlock Holmes. Lisbeth Salandar. Loki. The Minions in Despicable Me. Jack Black in School of Rock. Jacob in the Bible. These are people who have scarred pasts, who make human decisions and who strive anyway for the good of other people.
What I’m trying to say church is that God calls unlikely people into the movement and into a world in which the Spirit moves among us, doing the work of justice and peace. He puts us right into that work with a limp because that’s the way that we build empathy and compassion and relate to a God who walked on the earth and did the same.
When I was in Kentucky at General Assembly, I went to hear a man preach named Dr. Rev. William Barber. He has been arrested sixteen times for “emoting and praying too loudly.” He’s a leader of a movement called the Poor People’s Campaign and the leader of Moral Mondays, a series of weekly, racially diverse protests that began in North Carolina in 2013 after a certain group of people in that state pushed through restrictions on voting rights and unemployment benefits and other social programs.
What’s interesting about him is that he’s not a man with a lot of physical strength. He was born with a form of arthritis known as ankylosing spondylitis that can lead to, among other things, inflammation and fusion of the spine. That’s the condition that he wears and walks with every day, limping in some ways. Barber brought the house down. He preached for 45 minutes without stopping and at the end of it, in his signature move, threw the binder with his sermon in it on the ground. That’s the fire he brings. This is what he says: “My commitment for the rest of my life — until I can’t go anymore, if the pain says I can’t, and even then I’m going to find a way to still do something — is to be with those in this country who every day have inflicted upon them the restrictions of a democracy that’s full of the arthritis of inequality. The pain of racism, and classism.” He says, “This cane has marched in marches,” he said, holding up the wooden staff. “It’s been in the jailhouse. It’s been in the White House. It’s been in the Senate confirmation hearings. It reminds me of when I couldn’t walk.”
Barber is inspiring to me because he wears his wound wherever he goes. I often try to hide mine—it’s vulnerable to wear the limp and walk anyway. It can feel exposing. But that’s the kind of life I want to have. I want to be welcomed to wrestle with God in the loneliness of the night and not let go. I want to be welcomed to wrestle with God when I don’t feel God’s presence or see God face to face. I want to be welcomed to wrestle with God when it feels impossible to hold on. I want to be known in my humanity, like Jacob, this unlikely anti-hero who becomes the name Israel; who takes himself and wrestles and becomes a people-group who persevere and strive with God. It’s not about perfection, it’s about salvation. I want to be like William Barber. I want to be like the Grinch. I want to be like Severus Snape, the most courageous character in Harry Potter and I want to be willing to wrestle with God. Do you?